Sunday, February 22, 2015

Looking at the man in the mirror

In my manifesto, I wrote that before I would criticize anyone else's behavior, I would want to criticize my own first.

I wanted to say something about some unhealthy-looking behavior I saw around me, so I decided to look for that behavior in myself first.

Here's what I saw:
- Jumping to conclusions about someone's personality and character from only a few observations of what they say and do, without any investigation.
- Anger and alarm continually erupting at the slightest provocation.
- Fear of letting people see the loving, affectionate, sensitive, sentimental, intuitive parts of my personality, and possibly being depreciated and intimidated, keeping me from talking about some of my thoughts and feelings in public.
- Continually being tempted to promote my ideas and interests in ways that depreciate and intimidate others.

There might be some clues for me in all that, about why my progress in learning kindness and humility has been so slow.

Wednesday, February 04, 2015

Responses to offensive evangelism

"Two ladies from Scotland, delighted that their request to have an evening with the Master while He was in London had been granted, were warmly received by ‘Abdu’l-Bahá. How they relished having this intimate evening! Half an hour passed in His warm presence, when suddenly they were filled with consternation—an aggressive reporter strode into their midst and seated himself—he wanted information about the Master. His talkative, impolite manner left the ladies speechless—such an intrusion could spoil that precious evening. Then, to their surprise, ‘Abdu’l-Bahá stood up and, beckoning the reporter to follow Him, led the way into His room. The ladies had indeed got rid of the intruder, but they had also lost ‘Abdu’l-Bahá. What were they to do? Before long the hostess went into the Master’s secretary and asked that He be informed ‘that the ladies with whom the appointment had been made are awaiting His pleasure.’ Very soon kind words of farewell were heard. Then the Master returned, pausing by the door. Gravely, He looked at each and said, ‘You were making that poor man uncomfortable, so strongly desiring his absence; I took him away to make him feel happy.’"

(Honnold, Annamarie, Vignettes from the Life of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 54)

I just learned about a man who travels around, preaching at universities, in the name of Christianity, promoting views that seem very offensive and alarming to many Christians. I've thought about how I might want to respond to that, if I lived or studied on that campus.

One way of responding that I read about, and which I love, was students of all persuasions, including atheists and a diversity of Christians, gathering nearby, having loving conversations with each other about their beliefs.

Beyond that, here are some other things I might want to do, and not do, if I lived or studied on that campus:

1. If we had advance notice, I might want to prepare information booths to set up near where he was preaching, about the gospel. Or not. I see pros and cons to that.

2. I would want to try to show him God's love, and surround Him with God's grace. Give him friendly attention. Look for things in his behavior to appreciate, and praise him for them. Express appreciation for his courage and audacity in trying to teach the gospel as he understands it. Ask him about his family, his interests, looking for some possible topic for friendly conversation. Walk with him, offer to help him carry his things. Bring him water. Invite him to a meal. Every way I could think of to shower him with God's love. Of course I would need to fill myself up with God's love first, before I would approach him! Maybe pray together with some friends first, and read some appropriate Bible verses, and ask them to pray for me while I was with him.

3. I would *not* debate with *anyone* about *anything.*

4. I would *not* mock or ridicule him, or say or insinuate anything depreciating him or his views. If I openly objected to anyone's behavior, I would start with the behavior of any of my friends I saw treating him unkindly or depreciating him, before I would say anything about his behavior.

5. I might not encourage any women to spend time with him, or to talk to him more than briefly. It might be better for men to spend time with him, and women to pray for them. That might be something to consult about, with whoever is volunteering to shower him with love.